Comments on: Spreading the Word About Adoption http://vietnam.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/spreading-the-word-about-adoption Current information about adopting from Vietnam, international adoption agencies and adoptive parenting. Vietnamese culture and news is also discussed. Fri, 01 Jan 2010 11:16:39 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Rebecca http://vietnam.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/spreading-the-word-about-adoption/comment-page-1#comment-97 Rebecca Wed, 14 Nov 2007 00:14:10 +0000 http://viet-nam-ado.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/13/spreading-the-word-about-adoption#comment-97 thanks Emory, you're right that there are just some people who have their mind set and that's it. Good for you for already thinking about your answers and word choices :)<br /> <br /> BJE,<br /> Adoption is not 100% positive or 100% negative, and nowhere did I make any mention of treating birth families as second class citizens. Sharing realistic views and stories about adoption while addressing the misinformed is beneficial, but sharing only the negative (or only the positive)will get us nowhere.<br /> <br /> Rebecca thanks Emory, you’re right that there are just some people who have their mind set and that’s it. Good for you for already thinking about your answers and word choices :)

BJE,
Adoption is not 100% positive or 100% negative, and nowhere did I make any mention of treating birth families as second class citizens. Sharing realistic views and stories about adoption while addressing the misinformed is beneficial, but sharing only the negative (or only the positive)will get us nowhere.

Rebecca

]]> By: emory77 http://vietnam.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/spreading-the-word-about-adoption/comment-page-1#comment-96 emory77 Tue, 13 Nov 2007 23:27:21 +0000 http://viet-nam-ado.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/13/spreading-the-word-about-adoption#comment-96 Great post, Rebecca. It's really tough to educate the mis-informed. I know a woman who is convinced that all adoptions (especially International) are completed with bribe money being exchanged. No matter how many times I explain it, she ignores me. <br /> <br /> We have been trying to be very vigilant with sharing both the good and the bad but we, ourselves, are still learning. I definitely have learned to choose my battles, with still an interest of setting the record straight...maybe not at that moment, but I definitely keep it in my mind for future reference. <br /> <br /> I have no idea what life will be like once we adopt, but I'm trying to remain conscious of my actions and words pre-baby and once we are a family. Because I feel like that's where the mis-informed really get their education.<br /> <br /> <br /> Great post, Rebecca. It’s really tough to educate the mis-informed. I know a woman who is convinced that all adoptions (especially International) are completed with bribe money being exchanged. No matter how many times I explain it, she ignores me.

We have been trying to be very vigilant with sharing both the good and the bad but we, ourselves, are still learning. I definitely have learned to choose my battles, with still an interest of setting the record straight…maybe not at that moment, but I definitely keep it in my mind for future reference.

I have no idea what life will be like once we adopt, but I’m trying to remain conscious of my actions and words pre-baby and once we are a family. Because I feel like that’s where the mis-informed really get their education.

]]> By: BJE http://vietnam.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/spreading-the-word-about-adoption/comment-page-1#comment-95 BJE Tue, 13 Nov 2007 22:29:00 +0000 http://viet-nam-ado.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/13/spreading-the-word-about-adoption#comment-95 What about the negative side of adoption that also needs to be known??? Too many times birthparents and families are treated like second class citizens once the relinquishment papers are signed. Who is going to let people know the bad side? Let me answer that for you. I WILL! What about the negative side of adoption that also needs to be known??? Too many times birthparents and families are treated like second class citizens once the relinquishment papers are signed. Who is going to let people know the bad side? Let me answer that for you. I WILL!

]]> By: Childrenschoice http://vietnam.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/spreading-the-word-about-adoption/comment-page-1#comment-94 Childrenschoice Tue, 13 Nov 2007 21:49:04 +0000 http://viet-nam-ado.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/11/13/spreading-the-word-about-adoption#comment-94 Our agency provides both foster care and Adoption. We need foster Parents. Children here in America need our help. Please contact me if you live in Pennsylvania for further information about our agency.<br /> <br /> Jeannine Cobb<br /> jcobb@childrenschoice.org Our agency provides both foster care and Adoption. We need foster Parents. Children here in America need our help. Please contact me if you live in Pennsylvania for further information about our agency.

Jeannine Cobb
jcobb@childrenschoice.org

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