Comments on: Relationship Assumptions

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Fri, 10 Aug 2007 03:07:06 +0000

thank you all for your insights and experiences~I appreciate you sharing!

By: romee_1101

romee_1101 — Thu, 09 Aug 2007 21:33:58 +0000

I used to assume "biological" until I adopted. Now I just wonder only because I have adopted.

It surprises me when people are surprised (in this day and age) that people can and do have biological children who are mixed race and don't look "white" like their mommy or their daddy.

Ahh well.

Romee

By: krisj

krisj — Thu, 09 Aug 2007 02:58:56 +0000

I think its great that you are pointing this out. I have been one of those asumers. My now very good friends husband is a principle (he is white) and when I saw his asian daughter I thought she must be adopted until I saw her asian mommy! I never said anything thankfully but it made me think, NEVER ASUME LADY! lol She is a great friend now and actually was a 3 month old in the plane crash for operation baby lift.
-Kris

By: Sunbonnet Sue

Sunbonnet Sue — Thu, 09 Aug 2007 02:46:35 +0000

My husband and I love to watch young families (happy ones anyhow) at the store. We try not to oogle too much, ’cause we don’t want them to think we’re weird. It has little to do with the racial component, only the beauty of the family unit. One of the reasons we’re so taken with your Ella is our daughter is engaged to a Chinese man from Malaysia. He and Ella have similar chubby cheeks, and we’re very much looking forward to adorable grandchildren. Not for a few more years tho…..

By: AdoptionBlogs Editor

AdoptionBlogs Editor — Wed, 08 Aug 2007 16:27:21 +0000

This reminds me of a blog that grant wrote not too long ago about Meg Ryan being concerned about whether people were looking at her newly adopted child because she was adopted or because she was just cute. My son and I ran into a Caucasian woman and her Asian daughter at a department store once. I couldn't help but look at the child simply because she was so beautiful and talkative. I didn't assume that she was the woman's biological or adopted child. It didn't matter. She was a beautiful child who obviously loved the woman dearly and had been raised to be confident enough to speak to other children and adults.

While the woman may have wondered or assumed what I thought about the child's origin, all I really thought was what a wonderfully well adjusted child she was raising.