I’m still trying to wrap my head around how I feel about the holiday that is Birth Mother’s Day. The Saturday before Mother’s Day is set aside to celebrate birth moms each year. When I first head of Birth Mother’s Day I thought it was a great idea…now I’m not so sure. I have done some digging and found birth moms who whole heartedly support and some who vehemently resent the idea of Birth Mother’s Day. The general public may not have ever heard of this day, but it seems to becoming more common and well known within the adoptive community.

I absolutely love the idea of taking time to honor and remember birth mothers; I feel that it is so important. I think of Ella’s birth parents regularly, but the rest of the world may not, so I support the idea of having a time of remembrance for them. But the controversy in my head lies in the fact that this day makes it seem that birth moms do not deserve to be celebrated as all other mothers are – on Mother’s Day. Is the separate day meant to be a compliment (as in, you deserve an entire day to yourselves) or a means to exclude?

The way that I have been able to reconcile it is to remember the day, remember Ella’s birth mom and birth dad on both days (Birth Mother’s Day and Mother’s Day) and let her decide what she would like to do when she gets older. I would fully welcome and encourage any kind of remembrance of her birth mom on mother’s day, but if Ella would prefer to acknowledge Birth Mother’s Day, that’s fine too. For me, I would rather share Mother’s Day with the woman who brought my baby girl into the world. We both deserve the recognition together.



Related Links:
Our Birthmom's Day Event
Celebrating Motherhood

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