Viet Nam Adoptive Family Interviews – Final Words

August 31st, 2007
Categories: Family Interviews

Viet Nam Adoptive Family Interviews : An Introduction Many readers of this blog are currently considering adopting from Viet Nam. What would you like to say to them? The Engelbrecht Family - I was extremely impressed with the quality of the orphanges in VN. The children all seemed very well cared for. Christina - First, congratulations! It’s an incredible gift and a blessing to adopt a child from Vietnam. Second, please go into your adoption with your eyes wide open. Do your best to research every aspect of your adoption – the country, the agencies, the laws, other parents’ experiences, attachment issues… basically all the types of things covered in this interview! Adoption is not for the faint of heart and it’s… [more]

Viet Nam Adoptive Family Interviews – Re Adoption, Culture & Community

August 30th, 2007
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Viet Nam Adoptive Family Interviews : An Introduction Did you re-adopt your child in your home state? Can you please talk about your decision to do or not do so? The Engelbrecht Family - We are in the process of re-adopting. This was the best way to change her name in our state. Christina - Yes, we re-adopted. We wanted our kids to have an American birth certificate because it helps with other citizenship documents and also it’s amazing how many times you need to show a birth certificate (like signing up for soccer or baseball) and we didn’t want to hand over Zeeb’s only copy from Vietnam. Also, it gives us peace of mind that he was officially adopted in America as well as… [more]

Viet Nam Adoptive Family Interviews – Dealing With the Public

August 29th, 2007
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hands1 Viet Nam Adoptive Family Interviews : An Introduction Have you encountered any rude/nosy/disrespectful comments or questions about your family? If so, how did you handle them? The Engelbrecht Family - So many people ask if we can conceive. I just say that she is what we've always wanted. Christina - Nothing overtly rude or disrespectful. We live in an area that is pretty diverse and there are many transracial families so most people don’t give us a second look. I have been asked a few times where my son is from or if my husband is Asian. And often when I say we adopted him from Vietnam they’ll say he’s so lucky or I’m such a wonderful person – comments I… [more]

Viet Nam Adoptive Family Interviews – Adjusting to Life at Home

August 29th, 2007
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hands1 Viet Nam Adoptive Family Interviews : An Introduction How did your child adjust to their new life in the US? The Engelbrecht Family - She adjusted very easily. She is just very adaptable Christina - I was amazed at how well Zeeb adjusted to his new life. It wasn’t instant perfection of course, but considering how many changes he had to deal with and just all the chaos of coming into a family of 6 at Christmas time, he did great. The biggest hurdle for us what his language – he held onto his Vietnamese for probably 4 months and he would get frustrated when we didn’t understand him. Honestly a lot of this has faded from my memory already (!!)… [more]

Viet Nam Adoptive Family Interviews – The Power of Time

August 28th, 2007
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hands1 Viet Nam Adoptive Family Interviews : An Introduction Can you talk about how your parent-child bond formed/changed from the time you first met until today? The Engelbrecht Family - Sienna was very easy to bond with. She formed bond before we left Viet Nam and she has just deepened those. She 'checks in' a lot and looks for support now. Christina - When I first met Zeeb, I thought he was a cute little boy but he didn’t feel like *mine*… in part I think because he was with his foster family and he was clearly very bonded to them. But even in those first weeks he was with us, it still felt a little like we were babysitting him (and… [more]

Viet Nam Adoptive Family Interviews – Bonding

August 28th, 2007
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hands1 Viet Nam Adoptive Family Interviews : An Introduction If your child bonded quickly to one parent over the other (in a two parent home,) how did you encourage bonding with the other parent? Christina - Zeeb bonded more easily to my husband, I think maybe because he had been so attached to his foster mother and sister. Also my husband didn’t get as stressed by things and I think Zeeb sensed that. Once we got home and my husband went back to work, Zeeb and I built our own bond… just being together all day every day did the trick. The Mynes Family - When we were still in Viet Nam Leland did quickly bond with Chris. I though it was because… [more]

Viet Nam Adoptive Family Interviews – Attachment and Baby Wearing

August 27th, 2007
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hands1 Viet Nam Adoptive Family Interviews : An Introduction What would you recommend to families to foster attachment between parent and child? The Engelbrecht Family - Skin-to-skin contact. A lot of playful interaction. Christina - Hold your child as much as you can, be the one to feed him and provide for his needs, try to keep things predictable and routine, as much as possible. While in Vietnam, we read Zeeb the same books and watched the same videos over and over and we tried to keep meals and naptimes at the same times every day. Once we got home, we continued to keep things on a schedule and were the primary caregivers for Zeeb. He didn’t have a babysitter or go to his… [more]

Viet Nam Adoptive Family Interviews – Memories of Viet Nam

August 24th, 2007
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hands1 Viet Nam Adoptive Family Interviews : An Introduction What are some of your favorite memories of your time in Viet Nam? The Engelbrecht Family - Cyclo rides, Hoa Long Bay, trip to our daughter's province Christina - The best parts were the times when Zeeb was happy and smiling and having fun, even if the kids were just playing with toys in our room or on the hotel playground. But when we went out, the biggest hits were the Water Puppets and Hoan Kiem Lake in Hanoi, the shopping and the zoo in HCMC (Ho Chi Minh City,) and the day/night we spent at the beach in Long Hai. The Mynes Family - Meeting our son for the first time. Eating lunch with… [more]

Viet Nam Adoptive Family Interviews – Travel / Packing Tips

August 24th, 2007
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hands1 Viet Nam Adoptive Family Interviews : An Introduction Can you offer some advice to parents about the plane ride home with their new child? The Engelbrecht Family - Make sure you get a bassinet but be prepared for your child not to like it. Take a lot of extra clothes (Sienna rarely spit up and had never had diarrhea, but she did on the plane-she came home in a twice used pair of pants and a cardigan with no shirt). Christina – If your child is older like our son was, it helps to have someone tell him what to expect in Vietnamese. Zeeb freaked out about putting on a seatbelt and sitting still on the plane, but then a Vietnamese woman sitting… [more]

Viet Nam Adoptive Family Interviews – Getting Ready

August 23rd, 2007
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hands1 Viet Nam Adoptive Family Interviews : An Introduction What do you suggest parents–to–be purchase in advance for their child? The Engelbrecht Family - If you may be traveling in the winter-take sweatsuits, etc for your child. Vietnamese want the children to be warm and temps in the 60's for us is very COLD to them. Definitely take meds with your for your child-you never know if you can get English labels. At least one or two outfits smaller then you think you need (our daughter's weight is pure muscle and everything we took was too big even based on weight) Christina - It’s hard because you don’t know exactly how old your child will be when they arrive home – or what… [more]